I actualy got it to work by putting the password in single quotes ' ' instead of " " (i tried this randomly)
now the message I get when I transfer a file is
Upload of file 'test2.txt' was successful, but error occurred while setting the permissions and/or timestamp. If the problem persists, turn on 'Ignore permission errors' option.
. 2013-04-01 17:18:29.115 Binary transfer mode selected.
. 2013-04-01 17:18:29.115 Opening remote file.
> 2013-04-01 17:18:29.115 Type: SSH_FXP_OPEN, Size: 53, Number: 259
< 2013-04-01 17:18:29.271 Type: SSH_FXP_HANDLE, Size: 10, Number: 259
> 2013-04-01 17:18:29.271 Type: SSH_FXP_WRITE, Size: 56, Number: 774
> 2013-04-01 17:18:29.271 Type: SSH_FXP_CLOSE, Size: 10, Number: 1028
> 2013-04-01 17:18:29.271 Type: SSH_FXP_SETSTAT, Size: 49, Number: 521
< 2013-04-01 17:18:29.318 Type: SSH_FXP_STATUS, Size: 49, Number: 774
< 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Type: SSH_FXP_STATUS, Size: 40, Number: 1028
< 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Status code: 0
< 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Type: SSH_FXP_STATUS, Size: 83, Number: 521
< 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Status code: 3, Message: 521, Server: This server does not support operations to modify file attributes., Language:
* 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 (ETerminal) Permission denied.
* 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Error code: 3
* 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Error message from server: This server does not support operations to modify file attributes.
* 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Request code: 9
. 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Asking user:
. 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Upload of file 'test2.txt' was successful, but error occurred while setting the permissions and/or timestamp. If the problem persists, turn on 'Ignore permission errors' option. ("Permission denied.
. 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Error code: 3
. 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Error message from server: This server does not support operations to modify file attributes.
. 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Request code: 9")
< 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Script: Upload of file 'test2.txt' was successful, but error occurred while setting the permissions and/or timestamp. If the problem persists, turn on 'Ignore permission errors' option.
< 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Script: Permission denied.
< 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Error code: 3
< 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Error message from server: This server does not support operations to modify file attributes.
< 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Request code: 9
* 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 (EScpSkipFile) Upload of file 'test2.txt' was successful, but error occurred while setting the permissions and/or timestamp. If the problem persists, turn on 'Ignore permission errors' option.
* 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Permission denied.
* 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Error code: 3
* 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Error message from server: This server does not support operations to modify file attributes.
* 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Request code: 9
. 2013-04-01 17:18:29.443 Script: Failed
> 2013-04-01 17:18:29.661 Script: exit
. 2013-04-01 17:18:29.661 Script: Exit code: 1
. 2013-04-01 17:18:29.661 Closing connection.
. 2013-04-01 17:18:29.661 Sending special code: 12
. 2013-04-01 17:18:29.661 Sent EOF message